Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Working on an Eternal Marriage Here!

So my DH and I have had a trying 4 years. Not so much that our marriage was ever "on the rocks" but we've just been through some out-of-the-ordinary stuff. And I still love him. I married him knowing full well he is not perfect. But neither am I. So not.

I know my DH like no one else. NO. ONE. ELSE. I know how hard he works everyday, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. No one knows his weaknesses better than he does. The last thing he needs me (his *beautiful*, eternal companion and best friend) doing is reminding him. again. and. again.

I'm a nagger by default. And by default, I mean it took a while to realize that nagging can be detrimental to a marriage or any relationship for that matter. I am one of those "just get it done" type of people. He's not. So not.

But I still love him.

He's a good man. Not perfect. But No. One. Is.

I am only now really truly accepting him for who he really is. And I can only do that by getting to know him better. and better. and better. And with every imperfection I accept, I love him more and more.

is that weird?

Sometimes getting to know the real him is hard. painful. makes me cry. dissapoints me. but once I work through those emotions  I love him more. I feel closer to him because it is the real him that I love, not the idea of him that I married.

I mean, how well can you really know someone after a month? two years? 5 years? You can know a lot. but there is always more to know. every memory. every wish. every thought.

always more. always, always.

I just realized all this last night. And we have been married for 4 years. And have 2 kids.

I believe that every trial we go through together bring us closer. makes us stronger.

Wow. Marriage can be so rewarding. I learn more about myself all the time. I love it.


*Edited to Add: My cousin sent me THIS LINK that goes nicely with this post.


Roxie said...

SO TRUE.. I need to get over the "little things" that annoy me..your post reminded me of something I read last night..go here..http://lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=21b59d9ff732f110VgnVCM100000176f620a____&hideNav=1

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